http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/Jezebel-Spirit-blog.html The Jezebel Spirit Blog keeps you up-to-date with all additions and changes to the deconstructingjezebel.com Web site. Subscribe here. en-us Jezebel Spirit Wed, 22 May 2013 00:42:50 GMT Wed, 22 May 2013 00:42:50 GMT deconstructingjezebel.com 32784a36bf4e66a1647f7b9dba351cfc http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/this-is-my-side-of-the-story.html I came hear today, to give you a slight view inside of my window and what it’s been like loving and living with Troy (my husband) and his world for the Wed, 22 May 2013 00:42:46 GMT 9e064e81426d81d0ebefe96483964e65 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/perfect-target.html I grew up in a home with a mn mother. Two of my siblings are n also. Her flying monkey's. I recently made this discovery in the last two years. Hard to Wed, 22 May 2013 00:38:30 GMT cc6c30e82a4dfd9b05e5e3754d20ec94 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/i-kissed-prince-charming-and-poof-he-turned-into-an-ugly-frog.html Once upon a time there was a Girl who Believed she had found her Prince Charming. But what she neglected to see was that her Prince came with a Warning. Wed, 22 May 2013 00:35:11 GMT 7dcc4f28036db8d4a55e3288142aac7d http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/lost-hope.html Well I am on my android . So forgive me. In dec09, I was left wo everything, my ex took it all. I was so depressed and then in april 10. Omg , I lost my Wed, 22 May 2013 00:25:47 GMT 59ac7dc0dd275a5a1fbc027390e4f696 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/i-dont-matter.html My boyfriend is a N, which I just realized two weeks ago. He has told me that he does not care about some things I say because they don't make sense or Wed, 22 May 2013 00:23:18 GMT 9aef7e5ced96176a0e6d46723dcc5e5e http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/without-a-clue.html I just experienced dating a narcissist. A perfect charmer who gave me a fantastic 6 months, until it ended. He left, and it as if though I had never Wed, 22 May 2013 00:21:14 GMT c8d7ed4c130a7b498b540db4faea5aaa http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/want-ad-on-behalf-of-narcissist-ex.html A year after declaring he was not committed to me (no less than two weeks after we brought home our adopted son), my ex told me he was very lonely and Thu, 21 Mar 2013 15:12:04 GMT 212b0bef70eec41abf2610aae024e89a http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/my-father-the-narcissist.html I posted a few days ago about my son-in-law, the narcissist here. Title on that one was 'Heartbreaking Indeed.' Well, we haven't suffered that long Thu, 21 Mar 2013 15:07:57 GMT 6d68b49e2d02666c8a48a0a10875ca01 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/smothering-friendly-happy-then-suicidal.html Ex-GF moved in after dating for 5 months. Red flags began to appear from everywhere! She started physically altering my home. She loved to do projects, Thu, 21 Mar 2013 15:03:43 GMT 2497f890a9ad322fb3b4fcb4aecf2ba8 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/its-a-long-long-road-from-which-there-is-no-return.html Every now and then you'd hear or see something that knocked your socks off,like ' we're put on this earth to make money' or' why do you always go against Thu, 21 Mar 2013 14:59:56 GMT 399bfecac38d29ec75427378a4593a23 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/happy-mothers-day.html Here's the end of a very long email I once got from my mother after I said I was no longer going to pay her rent because my job wasn't very secure (I realise Thu, 21 Mar 2013 14:52:33 GMT a99389759ceef9ebf24376c62154ff38 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-most-beautiful-woman-on-earth.html Met online. She was still married, but neglected to mention that in her profile. Fed me ice cream on our first date across the table. We re both christians Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:22:43 GMT 66e5cb2c3f5d449bc3a3a3c5ac68d55c http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/after-he-was-angry-he-took-battery-out-of-lawn-mower-etc.html After never really figuring out why I had upset/offend him, he removed my battery from my lawn mower and hid it in my basement. When I discoverd it Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:16:29 GMT 8843b5acf11c57139ae0d0dad0b83d56 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/a-bad-renter-with-narcassitic-injury.html I was the landlord and she filed criminal charges on me a year after she moved out claiming I tried to come in the house ...... Uhh hello I was the landlord Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:13:02 GMT 84129ff14dcc3634a55c3424886a9523 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/what-was-i-thinking.html It all began as a typical Narcissistic beginning. The perfect mate, the idealizing, the charm, the they seemed to know my every need, want and desire. Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:10:42 GMT 3208ab27109e3ffbe5553282e6befcfe http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/coming-out-on-the-other-side-better-than-ever.html First , let me say how glad I am to have found this site. It does let me know that I am not crazy. I have been married to a N for 24 yrs. I always knew Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:07:00 GMT 75564576862e6d71211dfd4ce569ac95 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/narcissistic-ex-vamping-on-grandchildren.html I wish I could get away from my Narcissistic Ex. It is bad enough what he took from me in the past, but now he is stepping all over me again with my grandchildren Mon, 25 Feb 2013 18:04:29 GMT 3c4f366fd99db83dc8b22a8927709faa http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/ive-cut-all-contact-but-still-feel-like-something-bads-going-to-happen.html I have been dating a guy recently whom i have known for years. I have since had suspicion that he has done something sadistic to my dog! I have also Mon, 04 Feb 2013 18:41:16 GMT cb80ed66b0d7e0670cea9a341e7ffae4 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/got-pregnant-by-a-narcist.html I had the baby and he took off..all the while telling me he loved me and couldnt wait to hold the baby and he was coming back..6 months had gone by and Mon, 04 Feb 2013 18:39:43 GMT 36b5a12e5192569d919c813769a16211 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/mom-age-82-may-need-some-help-around-the-house-.html Four years ago, I observed my mother struggling to live alone, care for her mid sized dog and remain safe in her own home. I lived 500 miles away near Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:42:58 GMT 68cdea41a31316ef9d20278e1f0b4591 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/how-do-we-escape.html Is there a way to leave/divorce a N spouse without causing injury? I'm trying to a avoid the rage that is likely to come with it Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:39:18 GMT 1f666a27b153b559d4347455d3b590ea http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-kick-to-my-manhoodprivate-area-no-really.html I met my wife on her 21st birthday and married her 2.5 years later. Have now been married 23 years. It all boiled over 4.5 years ago. The wife was into Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:38:21 GMT 09740e7f5fd81a029227a4c459f63904 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/my-13-year-experience-with-a-narcissist.html The Early Years When studying for a short while in the USA for my MBA I bumped into a guy in a bar I probably wouldn’t have looked at twice in the normal Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:34:01 GMT 889f7ab9cc4282cef0bd27d16327340e http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/birthday-party.html My husband was invited to a Chrismas / birthday party for him from his friends in a another city..now, I had a falling out with them. When I found out Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:28:09 GMT 4e0f62bba0297c050768c39dd680e446 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/you-didnt-cover-for-me.html After 26 years of marriage to my N husband, I decided it was time to deal with it head on. I went to my pastor, explained briefly my situation and that Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:26:30 GMT 4fefe4da7598c56177f4d3bbdfd0cfce http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/oops.html Wrong tone, wrong timing. I said the wrong thing. Now I have to listen to a 2 hour lecture at how bad, mean, awful, horrible am I. In front of my children Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:23:58 GMT 027c42ba58490961bd35ec6a00e5af3c http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-business-partner.html Had a business partner who turned out to be a narcissist. I was doing all the work, he barely ever showing up...I began to realize he spent most of his Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:22:46 GMT 37705e16659f7bb4d7115ace54a6c88a http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/thought-he-was-my-true-love.html Oh my goodness, you have described the man I have just left. Waited patiently for two years for his empty promises of marriage etc to become reality but Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:19:32 GMT cb22eb89171c45eb22b90250e97d1968 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/my-n-walked-out-of-our-marriage-and-lives.html My N is the youngest of many children, (more than ten) with loss of a parent in early childhood and then the tragic loss of a sibling. They were raised Thu, 24 Jan 2013 01:13:06 GMT 85b4f6adfdc334848254d3daf43a2447 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/7-years-of-torture-at-the-workplace.html Unquestionably the biggest low-life was Michael *****, a typical low-grade Italian-American type born with a defective eye and a mile-long inferiority Thu, 29 Nov 2012 21:12:41 GMT 9a785f2ce1296e7f37e0cf665f0ceb5a http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-aspi-the-narcisst.html After having a turbulent year I finally got myself together again - I thought - (the problems I always create for myself are due to the fact that I have Thu, 29 Nov 2012 21:03:33 GMT 6ed7dcd29b1168e8933d531cc3068d34 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/i-thought-there-was-something-wrong-with-me.html Hi my name is Gem I have a N sister 5 years younger than me. My first 5 Years were a joy. When I was told I had a sister I was upset because I wanted Tue, 23 Oct 2012 18:08:52 GMT c7ad000ac4b68ffc2121a2d0d576fc42 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/playing-therapist-to-an-n-was-a-bad-idea.html After several unfullfilling months of dating, one day I typed into my search engine 'Am I dating a loser?'. Thus began my discovery that my boyfriend Tue, 23 Oct 2012 17:58:05 GMT 452f008c3c98451f0eb416a63105ddec http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/i-was-married-to-a-narcissistic-cop-for-19-years.html My narcissistic husband has always controlled me by either giving me the silent treatment to get his way or by yelling and throwing things at walls. As Tue, 16 Oct 2012 19:57:08 GMT 7e5ce5131156f97dcca106b5d473539b http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/never-do-business-with-a-narcissistic-boyfriend.html Oh Boy!! It has been an emotional rollercoaster. I made the mistake of going into business with John and live to regret it every day and we are also lovers. Thu, 27 Sep 2012 16:18:41 GMT 4757bcc9b3b4a312e17f01e2403f82e1 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-wolf-in-sheeps-clothing1.html the wolf in sheeps clothing is exactly what my N fiance is.............everyone and nobody would ever even think he is the man that I will explain in this Tue, 18 Sep 2012 20:59:25 GMT f6c3823a978e74b6918758ca2eb38b51 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/the-wolf-in-sheeps-clothing.html the wolf in sheeps clothing... yes that is what my N is....I have been with him for 2 years and I am JUST starting to understand. I have left him 3 times Tue, 18 Sep 2012 20:54:55 GMT c0647dedff0dfda7c50a86e0800d9796 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/i-come-from-a-family-of-ns.html I've always know there is something weird with certain members (actually most) of my father's side of the family. I recently discovered that there might Tue, 11 Sep 2012 19:22:02 GMT 27b969832866be50b8bd527b3e62455c http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/after-i-push-the-past-behind-she-keeps-going.html I went to see my mother and her husband a couple of years back. I traveled 4,000 miles just to let her know why I was not returning her calls; I wanted Tue, 04 Sep 2012 19:27:16 GMT d86c1c8412ed20708a1e153dc81d7022 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/3-years-of-lies-cheating-and-lies-and-cheating.html He begged me to move in with him and against my better judgement I did. I gave up my very affordable apt on the Upperwest side of NY. After about Tue, 28 Aug 2012 19:13:56 GMT e7879b768963db5de86dd1cbd5ca9dc4 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/8-years-of-betrayal.html One of the most difficult days of my life was when by husband was being hauled off to jail for child pornography and possible child solitation. My whole Tue, 28 Aug 2012 19:10:12 GMT 562b732c5c9a351f4fd9485160959b56 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/thought-he-was-a-godsend.html Met him in February. Learned who he really was by end of August. I thought he was the love of my life, my soulmate, and someone from God sent to heal Tue, 28 Aug 2012 19:02:05 GMT c57c341110ab694e0dff8978b16aff15 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/artistic-payback.html My N was a director and playwright. The last thing he called me was a whore before my brutal devalue and discard. Each year he hosts a theatre festival Tue, 28 Aug 2012 18:59:31 GMT 173d7a4247311abf4ae0bb4d69aa7934 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/back-pain.html I've been with Joe for 3 years. When we first me I asked if he was sexually clean. He said yes. He gave me herpes. I broke up with him. 3 weeks Fri, 17 Aug 2012 16:57:11 GMT b5bf714a1bc77af7e639078126729b9b http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/stole-my-children-but-i-wonyou-can-too.html My mother hung the moon..... She was everything. I wanted to be just like her. We had a business together. I never had to think she always just told Wed, 08 Aug 2012 18:07:40 GMT b3853786cddb0a1f6c33adbed9459959 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/heart-broken-by-a-narc1.html Like all other “love stories” with a narcissist, mine is not different. It involves a lot of pain and despair. Everything started while I was attending Wed, 25 Jul 2012 17:40:41 GMT a91bbfc052fb678242d4b20fa37907d8 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/heart-broken-by-a-narc.html continued from 'heart broken by narc' He didn’t sleep. He barely ate. The guy was using some medication for “something he had in his brain”. He said Wed, 25 Jul 2012 17:38:29 GMT cfb06e42a51dd38f8c77c4500342ff35 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/my-life-with-a-nc-manand-he-called-me-crazy-right.html Well, it all began when I (18 1/2) was introduced by a friend, this NC convinced me that he could and would take care of me and my very young child, what Wed, 25 Jul 2012 16:57:46 GMT a7f38e59dcb7c7ece4a8375cabbda7d1 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/controll.html hi i was going out with a girl for four years now my father ive no doubt is a narcissist.but now as it came to the end of my relationship with my ex.i Wed, 25 Jul 2012 16:54:21 GMT c2958bed8fc587e79cb9a4b1d5fff982 http://www.deconstructingjezebel.com/do-not-contact-us.html The NPD in my life, told me in a glowing letter never to contact them in anyway, shape, manner or form. I realize now it was the best thing they did for Wed, 25 Jul 2012 16:51:52 GMT