WHAT IS NARCISSISM CONTINUED
As we continue with our discussion of malignant narcissism, here is M Scott Peck again:
According to Peck an evil person:
Most evil people realize the evil deep within themselves but are unable to tolerate the pain of introspection
or admit to themselves that they are evil. Thus, they constantly run away from their evil by putting themselves in a position of moral superiority
and putting the focus of evil on others. Evil is an extreme form of what M Scott Peck, in The Road Less Traveled,
calls a character disorder.
 Peck, M. Scott. (1978;1992). The Road Less Traveled.
 Peck, M. Scott. (1983;1988). People of the Lie: The hope for healing human evil.
from Wikipedia, M Scott Peck
Most likely you’ve heard your narcissist say things to the effect that ‘Nobody’s perfect’ – or better yet ‘You expect me to be perfect!’ – as a way of apology when confronted on certain behavior.
The longer your relationship with a character disordered person, the odds are that you’ve even heard them scream or say sullenly ‘I’m sorry’, and more often than not, you were forced to accept that crumb as the end of the conversation.
Further pushing the issue will only inflame the narcissist. And you’ve certainly learned how unpleasant that can be.
But the ‘apology’ – for lack of a better word – leaves one feeling unsatisfied; you sense that he really isn’t all that sorry, and doesn’t truly understand how he has made you feel by his actions or words.
Because the narcissist isn’t sorry, of course.
Unable or unwilling to alter his self-perception as above reproach, he’s furious with you for noticing his narcissistic behavior, and for actually being rude enough to comment on it.
Instead, in order to bolster his superiority complex, you must become ‘the bad guy’.
If you hadn’t noticed what he had done or said, hadn’t drawn attention to it, there would be no problem; e.g. the problem is all your fault.
Perhaps this logic makes sense to you, in a weird sort of way.
Perhaps it doesn’t. If not, don’t worry.
The world of malignant narcissism has no roots in logic - at least, not the kind that the rest of the world uses.
This tactic of shifting the focus of their ways on to you may work at times with humans, but it doesn’t go over so well with God.
In Ezekiel 18:30, God says ‘Therefore I will judge you, O house of Israel, every one according to his ways, saith the Lord God. Repent and turn [yourselves] from all your transgressions; so iniquity shall not be your ruin.’ [italics mine]
Webster’s dictionary defines ‘repent’ as:
To feel pain, sorrow, or regret, for what one has done or omitted to do. To feel pain on account of, to remember with sorrow.
Did you also notice that God said ‘every one according to his own ways’?
‘Direction, manner, habit’ are some of the definitions of this word ‘ways’, according to Strong’s Concordance (#H1870).
Repent: shuwb (Strong’s #H7725) To turn back.
Turn back from your ways. Feel sorrow or regret for your manner, your habits – that which is evil: causing pain; hurtful or unkind.
But malignant narcissism can’t - or won’t - repent.
First one has to be able to acknowledge that they have done evil – that they have sinned, ‘gone their own way’ – before they are able to turn back from their ways.
With the superiority complex – pride – whispering in the ear of malignant narcissism that he hasn’t done anything wrong, how is it possible for him to regret?
Proverbs 14:8 says ‘The wisdom of the prudent (wise or sensible) is to understand (consider, discern) his way (manner, direction, habit): but the folly of fools (dullard, simpleton, arrogant one) is deceit (treachery: from the root word ramah which means to beguile, deceive, mislead, deal treacherously).’ KJV italics mine
JUDGING THE FRUIT
But before we come to the obvious conclusion that malignant narcissism is, in fact, evil, please let’s remember: we have all done evil.
Have we repented? Do we consider our ways?
Proverbs 14:16 says that ‘a wise man feareth (reveres, afraid), and departeth (turns aside, rejects) from evil….’ KJV italics mine.
It doesn’t say that the wise man hasn’t done evil; it says that he is skillful, prudent and wise if he turns aside from evil.
Peck makes the simple yet profound point that, although Jesus said in Luke 6:37, ‘Stop judging others, and you will not be judged’ (which many have used either to excuse their behavior when confronted, or as a cop-out to having to confront someone for a transgression) the thought continues in verse 42: ‘First get rid of the log in your own eye; then perhaps you will see well enough…’ NLT [italics mine]
The point? First we repent of our sins, then we will be able to see, and know what we are seeing.
See: ra’ah (Strong’s #H7200) to see, perceive, learn about, observe, discern.
If we (continue to) repent, then we will discern and judge, as it says in 1 Corinthians 6:3 ‘Do you not know that we shall judge angels? How much more, things that pertain to this life!’ NKJV
Judge: krino (Strong’s #G2919) to determine; pronounce an opinion concerning right and wrong; condemn.
We will call malignant narcissism evil.
For every tree is known by his own fruit……and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil…..KJV Luke 6:44, 45
What do you think? Has M Scott Peck answered your question ‘What is narcissism’?
In his pronouncement of malignant narcissism – the people of the lie – as ‘evil', is he discerning the truth?
Let’s look at some more of their fruits.
Next: narcissistic injury
back to malignant narcissism part one from part two
back to Narcissistic Personality Disorder from malignant narcissism
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