My Nightmare in Shinning Armor!!!

by KD
(Alabama)

When I met my "nightmare" in shinning armor. I was at a very low point in my life. I had just divorced my husband of 19 years, I was lost, scared and for the first time, in a long time, I was all alone.

What I thought was a blessing from God, turned out to be a life lesson, I won't soon forget.

He swept me up off my feet. Made me feel oh so special. He seen me coming a mile away.

Everything happened so fast between us. And now I know why!! I should have know when we moved in together and everyone made the funniest faces when they found out who I was living with.

I was so stupid, that even he Aunt did some fortune telling for me...She said "Honey, I will tell you right now, you are just pretty and sweet to be with him. He will chew you up and spit you back out! And so, he has!

My family hates him and did from the very beginning. They inherited the old family trait of sniffing out trouble, where as I myself didn't have to sniff, trouble just always seemed to find me.

My family didn't like him for the same reasons that most of the world doesn't like "people" like him, because all he did was brag and boast and talk about how everyone he had ever known was stupid.

It just wasn't a gentlemanly quality, as far as they were(and still are) concerned. He does everything, I do nothing, I work in his business, but am not paid.

He constantly puts me down, blames me for mistakes that he himself made. He talks to me as if I am a child. And he plays oh so suttle little head games and then comes un-glued when I call him on it.

According to him, I make his life terribly difficult. If that were really the case then why does he go to such lengths to get me back? I know, I know, someone to work for free!

He has knocked me down time and time again to build himself up. When he isn't criticizing me about things I do, he is questioning me about things he thought I did. In his swelled little pea brain, he acutually thinks that I am the one causing all of the problems.

That is the only satisfaction I am allowed at this time you see, I know what people say behind his back. I see them when they roll their eyes, and gag to keep from throwing up! I just wink and go on my merry way.

Anyways, after several miserable years of leaving and coming back. Here I am with him yet again. Mostly because I felt sorry for him I guess...I am not really sure!

The fact is, he only loved, missed and respected me when I was gone. And soon enough he always went right back to his old devilish ways. My family finally got tired of trying to help me. Because I always gave into him and came back. So, they are done with me, for now at least.

I blame no one but myself. I asked for it...and finally he asked for it too! I hear him in there now, snoring away. You know he works harder than anyone else in the world. What a trooper! How manly of him to take the weight of the whole entire world on his special little shoulders. Yeah right!

He stopped impressing me a long time ago. I think I would do better to work harder at impressing my own self!!! Thanks everyone! This was truely a blast for me tonight. I feel much better now!! God bless!@

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Oct 18, 2012
nightmare
by: Anonymous

I agree. We've all run into people like him. I know it sounds too simple but don't languish in it, don't feel sorry for yourself and stop blaming yourself. It all does no good and just wastes time--I know. Move on with your life knowing that you didn't do anything wrong. You just tried to have a sincere relationship with someone who couldn't. Nineteen years is too long to stay with someone who doesn't respect and value who you are. And who cares what your family thinks...so they were right...big deal. Who are they to pass judgement when they should be a source of support...if they were all that healthy, you wouldn't have wound up with the guy in the first place. Afterall, you learned how to value yourself from them. Now the ball's in your court. You are not helpless. If you need counseling to deal with the pain and anger then be sure to seek it out. Put together a new life plan, make new friends, join a support group, get some hobbies and don't let any grass grow under your feet. Most of all, get counseling so you can findout who you are without your family or the ex.
I hope this helps.

Oct 18, 2012
2 cents
by: sharon

Its like we are sisters. What is it that makes people like us fall for this crap that we clearly have enough of a brain to see that these vampires don't even like us.Also my father married one. She lives in AL and I named her the wicked witch of the south.Childish I know but it helps with the pain she has caused my family. They were married for 20 years and trust me they don't change. Also look up the Jezabel spirt it effects men as well as women and will give another insight.

Jan 30, 2012
move on
by: Anonymous

Stop blaming yourself and putting yourself down. Probably everyone learns the hard way when it comes to finding out that there are some really dangerous people out there. It's horrifying to find out that such ugliness exists when it's by experience.

It doesn't make you stupid and stop berating yourself before someone else can, or because you think you "should" because it isn't healthy and really serves no purpose except to prolong your self pity and self loathing. Everyone makes mistakes and your are definitely not the first one to be spit out. You will be more cautious in the future. Go through the natural grieving process and do your best to move on.

Hopefully you now know that there are no knights in shining armor. What was it about you that made you feel the need to be rescued? This is all part of the life process of growing up without becoming bitter or cynical. Life really does go on and he will assume an insignificant part of your past with time, though the lesson is significant.

So, for now make time to do things that you really enjoy and onjoy the people that you care about. Experiment with new interests or get a pet if you don't have one.

...and don't work for free.

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