WINNING THE NARCISSIST GAME
what you can do
The question: Is there a cure for the narcissist?
The short answer is no.
The longer answer: it depends.
Most importantly, it depends on two things:
- What levels of beliefs and attitudes he/she has devolved into
- Is he/she willing to change
Treatment might consist of individual psychotherapy, group therapy or even hospitalization, but no one is trumpeting any of these as anything near a cure.
Besides the fallibility of these treatments, it is a rare narcissist indeed who will submit himself to the diagnosis and any sort of long-term treatment.
It is not uncommon for one to seek some sort of professional help, however – but it’s usually for other pain or trauma in his life, or even for another psychological disability.
In that case, he will convince himself (and attempt to convince everyone around him) that he is ‘getting so much better’, even if he’s been going round the same psychotherapy mountain for 30 years or longer; the same narcissistic behavior comes and goes, the same beliefs and attitudes remain.
As discussed in the
malignant narcissism article,
narcissism at its root is all about the will.
The reason your narcissist behaves and thinks the way he does is because of his discomfort at submitting his will to his Creator and his conscience.
Since he is so excruciatingly adept at self-deception, imagine how easy it must be for him to fool or - when this finally is no longer possible - ignore his therapist.
Ultimately, if he is unwilling to change, the behavior becomes a cancer, insidiously and finally reaching the stage known as malignant narcissism.
Secular and Christian experts agree there is no cure for malignant narcissism.
Which is hard for those of us who believe that ‘nothing is impossible with God’.
NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE WITH GOD
The truth is: nothing is impossible with God.
But the equal truth is that God gave each of us free will. We all of us have choices to make every single day, and let’s face it – a lot of them are hard:
- To be offended or not to be offended.
- To believe the best of someone.
- To bless and not curse.
- To pray for those who spitefully use us.
- To forgive or not to forgive.
- To be angry but sin not.
- To believe the enemy's lies or God's truth.
- To examine our ways.
Usually – hopefully – we make the right choice.
But when we don’t, usually – hopefully – we repent and keep going.
But Proverbs 13:19 says about the fool (arrogant one) that …’it is an abomination (disgusting thing) to fools to depart (put aside, reject) from evil’. KJV italics mine
The question remains: is there a cure for malignant narcissism?
And the answer is: not unless the fool wants it.
Now, let's find out
what you can do about it:
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