by Mike
(NY)
I have just severed ties with my narcissistic mother. It only took 32 years and a custody battle over our 4 year old son to do so.
Grandparent right's laws are great tools to exact painful revenge on a narcissistic mothers children for access to her grandchildren.
Grandchildren are prized sources of narcissistic supply. Once they have been given a taste of that pure uncut love and dependency, they will go to any lengths to secure access to that supply.That's what happened to my wife and I.
We made the terrible mistake of allowing my mother to participate in the babysitting arrangement believing that she would behave for fear of losing her access to her grandchild. We were trying to be inclusive. We wanted to "do the right thing".
We were wrong. She acted inappropriately around our son and disrespected our parental authority. Another family member witnessed the behavior and we suspended her access.
She filed with the court almost immediately seeking court ordered unsupervised visitation. We were dragged through hell but we prevailed.
I have now been ostracized from her extended family and friends. People I have known my whole life. I am free though.
My wife and I are free and we are happy. My children and I will never have to suffer through another ruined event or holiday season.
Life is much better but I am still trying to recover from the trauma of having someone go after our child. Part of that process is to learn about this disorder and understand it.
This website definitely helped me. Thanks.