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WHAT IS NARCISSISM:
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The payment?
Gossip and some malicious talk – at your expense.
Try firing a narcissistic employee.
The payment?
He will attempt to ruin your reputation.
Or sue you.
Or both.
For a narcissistic parent/friend/spouse, it’s probably best not to let them know that their gift (and narcissists are notoriously bad gift givers) didn’t fit or wasn’t quite your style; no matter how carefully or even apologetically you word the explanation, be prepared for the payment:
You didn’t like their gift, so therefore they will give you no more gifts.
LOAN SHARK
And speaking of gifts: never forget – a gift from a narcissist always comes with strings attached.
The details will be in fine print, unclear to you but excruciatingly clear to the narcissist.
It might take weeks, it might take months - or even in some cases – years, but you will be reminded of what they’ve done for you/given to you when it happens one day that they expect something of you that you’re unwilling or unable to give.
And oh, the growing fury as they realize that you just took the gift they’d offered without any idea that you were expected to pay back at the time of their choosing.
Their memories may be miraculously, disturbingly short when it comes to something they’ve done (incredibly, a narcissist can ‘forget’ something they’ve said or done even minutes ago; they’ll deny, deny, deny, claim that you’re exaggerating, claim that you’re making it up, claim that they would never do/say something like that) but an elephant has nothing over the narcissist in terms of her memory of what you have done/said/taken, etc.
This is all a part of narcissistic injury.
That isn’t to say that it’s a correct memory; only that the narcissist will claim to her dying day that you actually did say/do the thing you’re accused of.
This is called 'gaslighting', which you will read about further on.
NOTE TO SELF:
For many narcissists, revenge is best served cold.
When dealing with someone with malignant narcissism
– particularly when a situation becomes touchy -
don’t ever think ‘Well, that went well.’
Sleep with one eye open.
Be prepared for
narcissistic abuse
Ever offended a narcissist and lived to tell the tale?
Do tell!
Everyone's got a few narcissistic injury stories - some funny and some sad.
If you've been around a narcissist long enough, you've probably caused some narcissistic injury - and you've probably learned that it costs too much to be on his bad side.
While it might be a waste of time to try to talk to the narcissist, here's a safe place to vent.
These forums are for people like you, to vent and to share and to offer support to each other.
If you need to get it off your chest, here's the place to do it.
One word of caution: you might want to consider changing the names of the people involved in your story.
As well as your own.
But you probably already knew that.
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