Understanding my psycho sister
(Raleigh NC USA)
I have undergone this abuse and witnessed it for years.
I'm 56 and my sister is 52. I have seen my sister go off on her students in a classroom, on her colleagues, but usually on unsuspecting wait staff, store clerks, receptionists, etc.
I am the only family member (that I know of) that she does this to. In other words, so far as I have witnessed, it only happens in front of total strangers or me by myself.
When it happens, I am totally unprepared for it but apparently I am responsible because of something I said or did... She has only hit me once.
When it happens, I cannot reason with her. She is communicating at the level of about a 12 year old. When I try to share this with the rest of my family.. they think I'm making it up.
They just consider her a "little eccentric"... I have found that there is no use trying to talk it out. Just leave. Get in your car.. leave.. go away and leave the area.
I made the mistake this last time (two days ago) of telling her:
1. "Grow Up"
2. That she monopolized conversations and never spoke about anything but herself and
3. Everyone around her felt like they were walking on eggshells trying not to piss her off.
I do not suggest you ever try telling someone with NPD any of these things.. Didn't work well for me. I learned the hard way.
Now she's out making sure everyone in my family knows that I am a "weak" individual (she says she's a "stronger" person than me.. whatever that means)... and that I told her go to away and I didn't care where she went (which is not true.. yes.. I am calling her a liar)...
God help you if you have someone in your life like this..